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Title: Stressed, worried, scared, need friends
Post by: missminimouse on March 30, 2006, 06:58:22 AM
I don't usually delve too deep into my personal life with a group of total strangers,   but something is happening to my family that's got me terrified,  and nobody around me seems to be offering me much comfort.
We are being evicted from our home on April 20th,   we don't have a day longer than that.
My in-laws are buying a house that is a bit run down and needs lots of repairs,   but they are going to let us have it,  and rent will be much cheaper than the place we're currently in,  which was obviously unaffordable.  Problem is,   they won't close on this house till end of April,  beginning of May.   Which leaves us about a week to 2 weeks with no place to go.  I have 1 school age child,  and 2 that aren't in school yet and I'm pregnant. 
We don't have any friends we can stay with,  we've already thought about that.  We also thought about getting a hotel,  but that would be extremely expensive,  and also we'd have to eat out 3 times a day,   and we just can't afford that. 
My husband doesn't want to discuss the issue.   We still don't know the exact closing date on the house,  so he's waiting to hear that before he really starts freaking out.   
Moving is stressful enough,  but to not have anywhere to go for a couple weeks,  that just makes it worse.  I just need some words of encouragement or something,   I know in the longrun everything will be fine.  It's just hard to think about the longrun when there's a big gap like that.
Title: Re: Stressed, worried, scared, need friends
Post by: hades on March 30, 2006, 07:00:56 AM
have you already been to court to get evicted?
Title: Re: Stressed, worried, scared, need friends
Post by: missminimouse on March 30, 2006, 07:05:49 AM
They told us the court date is the 17th,  and then we have 72 hours to be out.   
Title: Re: Stressed, worried, scared, need friends
Post by: foxx on March 30, 2006, 07:08:07 AM
Talk to an attorney, ASAP.  I don't know what the laws are like in your state, but here in PA you must have 60 days notice before eviction. 

If you can't afford an attorney...there should be a Neighborhood Legal Service which works on a sliding fee scale...
Title: Re: Stressed, worried, scared, need friends
Post by: hades on March 30, 2006, 07:09:51 AM
not true.when youre in court youll go to a housing specialist first.when there try explaining you need like an extra month...if you have small kids you pretty much guarenteed up to an extra three months if you do need it.
Title: Re: Stressed, worried, scared, need friends
Post by: foxx on March 30, 2006, 07:11:49 AM
Quote from: hades on March 30, 2006, 07:09:51 AM
not true.when youre in court youll go to a housing specialist first.when there try explaining you need like an extra month...if you have small kids you pretty much guarenteed up to an extra three months if you do need it.

Depends on the state Hades...there is no federal guideline.
Title: Re: Stressed, worried, scared, need friends
Post by: hades on March 30, 2006, 07:14:13 AM
from what i read...the having children under a certain age gives you at least an automatic seventy five days or more.no matter what state it is.and most state do have a court appointed housins specialist.
Title: Re: Stressed, worried, scared, need friends
Post by: foxx on March 30, 2006, 07:17:17 AM
Quote from: hades on March 30, 2006, 07:14:13 AM
from what i read...the having children under a certain age gives you at least an automatic seventy five days or more.no matter what state it is.and most state do have a court appointed housins specialist.

Okay...we can argue about this later Hades...

Missminniemouse...Please try to talk to an attorney if you haven't already. 

Here is a link from the HUD website...perhaps you can find out some more info there...Don't worry woman, it will be okay...

http://www.hud.gov/homeless/hmlsagen.cfm
Title: Re: Stressed, worried, scared, need friends
Post by: Libra on March 30, 2006, 07:18:55 AM
Explain your situation to the judge.  If he/she doesn't give you the extra time you need, contact your local Red Cross.  They helped out a friend of mine in a similar situation. 

Good lucky, sweetie.  It'll all work out.  :-*

Libra
Title: Re: Stressed, worried, scared, need friends
Post by: hades on March 30, 2006, 07:20:53 AM
just get some legal advice before time and youll see for yourself whats going on.  :-*
Title: Re: Stressed, worried, scared, need friends
Post by: ClingFree on March 30, 2006, 07:24:34 AM
Its been said ... Legal Advice is my best advice ...

Past that .. it is going to work out. They always say its darkest before the dawn .. and theyre right. When youre 60 and sitting in a rocking chair with your hubby - You'll look back at this and think .. wow, we made it through that. It'll just be a speed bump in the road of life.
Title: Re: Stressed, worried, scared, need friends
Post by: bubblegum on March 30, 2006, 07:47:49 AM
Quote from: SunnyLibra on March 30, 2006, 07:18:55 AM
Explain your situation to the judge.  If he/she doesn't give you the extra time you need, contact your local Red Cross.  They helped out a friend of mine in a similar situation. 
Good lucky, sweetie.  It'll all work out.  :-*
Libra

yes go to the red cross and see if they can help.  Also contact your local salvation army to see if they can help.
Title: Re: Stressed, worried, scared, need friends
Post by: missminimouse on March 30, 2006, 07:53:25 AM
Ok,  guess what,   I just looked in my phone book and there's only 1 property lawyer in my area,   and he's already been hired by my landlord.......gotta love it.  I think basically I'm just gonna ask the judge to give us a couple extra weeks here.   I just hate to put it off till then,   cuz if he says no then we only have 3 days to figure out what we're gonna do.  I just kinda feel like there's not a whole lot i can do right now,   just waiting on everything to fall into my lap and figure it out from there.  Unfortunatly once it falls into your lap,  you're not given much time to figure out what to do with it. 
Title: Re: Stressed, worried, scared, need friends
Post by: harley89 on March 30, 2006, 08:12:30 AM
Go ahead and contact Red Cross and Salvation Army and explain your situation. They may be able to be able to help you with a backup plan or provide you with legal assistance. Go for girl. Everything will work out have faith. Most judges are not going to put small children in the street.
Title: Re: Stressed, worried, scared, need friends
Post by: crankycook on March 30, 2006, 10:21:56 AM
not sure where you live, or if you have them there, but try contacting your community action agency and see if they can help you. As everyone else said try to get a lawyer, leagel aid is free, or at least have a sliding scale. I know it don't seem like it now, but eventually everything will work out, and you will be stronger for it.
Title: Re: Stressed, worried, scared, need friends
Post by: nightperson on March 30, 2006, 10:30:13 AM
sry to here the problem your have i dont know where you live are the sorce of your commuity but maybe you can talk to family you did say they got you a house but wouldnt be ready maybe they can let you live there if there is anything i can do let me know im really sry my hearts goes out to you and your littles ones
Title: Re: Stressed, worried, scared, need friends
Post by: Helen on March 30, 2006, 10:44:13 AM
I'm sorry you're in this situation but like everyone else has already said, you do need legal advice.
I too can't see a judge not giving you an extention with 3 small children. Hope all goes well for you.
Title: Re: Stressed, worried, scared, need friends
Post by: Tara on March 30, 2006, 11:51:30 AM
Whatever you do make sure you go to court...If you don't go to court you will have like 10 days to get out...By going to court you have a better chance of getting to stay there 30 -60 days.
Title: Re: Stressed, worried, scared, need friends
Post by: nightperson on March 30, 2006, 12:06:04 PM
yes showing up does give you a better handle on everything i do hope they let you stay aleast 2 weeks till the other house is done
just explain it to the judge im praying for ya hun take care
Title: Re: Stressed, worried, scared, need friends
Post by: WindSong on March 30, 2006, 12:19:46 PM
I am a landlord and I'm guessing you're more than 30 days in arrears with your rent.  It's heartbreaking to have to evict anyone, especially when there are children in the home..... Why don't you try talking with your landlord and explain your situation with them.  Most people I know would extend your stay for a couple of weeks without you taking the chance that a judge will do that.  BTW, the judge can't just extend your time.  He must follow the laws of your particular state and he can't take into consideration whether you have children or what hardships you are facing.  Another suggestion is talk with your local housing authority.  I know in a couple of instances they did pay the rent for some of my tenants when they were unable to pay it themselves.  Also, some of the churches have funds for this type situation.  Be sure u do go to court.  Failure to appear guarantees the plaintiff will win with whatever request they are making.   At least if you are present and your landlord has any facts incorrect, you can correct them with the judge.  Good luck to you and your family.  I hope things get brighter very soon.
Title: Re: Stressed, worried, scared, need friends
Post by: bubblegum on March 30, 2006, 12:57:22 PM
yes do check with local Churches to see if they can pay all or part of the rent you do owe so the land lord and/or judge at least sees your trying to catch up on it.  Where I live the Red Cross, Salvation Army and YWCA are great places start with.  Even if they can't pay anyting toward your rent, they mat at least hook you up with a place to live and some food until you can move in to your new home.
Title: Re: Stressed, worried, scared, need friends
Post by: missminimouse on March 30, 2006, 12:58:09 PM
Quote from: WindSong on March 30, 2006, 12:19:46 PM
I am a landlord and I'm guessing you're more than 30 days in arrears with your rent.  It's heartbreaking to have to evict anyone, especially when there are children in the home..... Why don't you try talking with your landlord and explain your situation with them.  Most people I know would extend your stay for a couple of weeks without you taking the chance that a judge will do that.  BTW, the judge can't just extend your time.  He must follow the laws of your particular state and he can't take into consideration whether you have children or what hardships you are facing.  Another suggestion is talk with your local housing authority.  I know in a couple of instances they did pay the rent for some of my tenants when they were unable to pay it themselves.  Also, some of the churches have funds for this type situation.  Be sure u do go to court.  Failure to appear guarantees the plaintiff will win with whatever request they are making.   At least if you are present and your landlord has any facts incorrect, you can correct them with the judge.  Good luck to you and your family.  I hope things get brighter very soon.


This is a large community,   a very large company owns the estate,   so pleeding my case with my landlord is out of the question.   I've already attempted to get the back rent paid,  but because our rent is so high,  most charities do not have that amount of funds.  Right now my in-laws are trying to work with their bank to get the closing date of our new home moved up a bit so it overlaps with when we need to be out of here.   Unfortunatly I'm not entirely sure they can do that either.    I'll keep you guys posted with any news as I get it.  
Title: Re: Stressed, worried, scared, need friends
Post by: *~Peri~* on March 31, 2006, 12:42:03 AM
Your local housing authority should help.. We own 4 rental properties & I work for a Realtor.. Many times if you talk to your landlord & tell them your situation & offer them something, they will do whatever they can not to evict ASAP.. Middle of the month here in Illinois is hard to find renters... Also, Talk to your local church.. If one church doesnt work, then go to another one... I will pray for you...
Title: Re: Stressed, worried, scared, need friends
Post by: lostinpogoland on March 31, 2006, 03:51:26 AM
my heart goes out to you,hope things work out god bless you and your little ones <3
Title: Re: Stressed, worried, scared, need friends
Post by: WindSong on March 31, 2006, 08:43:25 AM
WOW .. haven't been able to get u off my mind since yesterday.  Did some checking and found a couple of other places that might help you if you have them in your area.  Check out these links and then see if you have something similar in your area.

http://www.wakegov.com/humanservices/economic/housing/housingemergency.htm

http://www.wakegov.com/humanservices/economic/assistance/default.htm

Sure hope someone can come to your rescue soon.  Do you mind telling what state you're in.  Maybe someone can help you more if we knew at least a general location.  God bless!!
Title: Re: Stressed, worried, scared, need friends
Post by: Mary on March 31, 2006, 09:22:57 AM
gl to you and family i`ve been in your situation before years ago and here in cali there where no emergency funds or housing available then hope you find help soon....
Title: Re: Stressed, worried, scared, need friends
Post by: missminimouse on March 31, 2006, 12:05:23 PM
Hopefully we'll be learning the exact closing day of our new home any day now.  I did read on a site that you can ask the judge to prolong the eviction,   so I will try that.  I will also try to talk to the landlord,  but first I want to wait untill I know the exact closing date of the new house,  so I know when we can move in there.   For right now everythings sorta up in the air so I just have to wait and see. 
Title: Re: Stressed, worried, scared, need friends
Post by: Gecko on March 31, 2006, 11:52:15 PM
i sure do wish you all the best i cant help you because i dont know how the law works there  ,, my wife and myself had to sleep in the car yrs ago because i mis timed  an eviction notice   we was moving elsewhere  and i thought we had every thing  timmed  to move from one place to another  , i know how stressfull ur situation is  ,  what made our situation worse was due to the fact of  it over an easter period  (nothing open)  and  by not attending  court/hearing  i didnt count on easter holidays  so its easy to make mistakes  ,  i know you have kids  so it would be much worse sleeping in car for 2 weeks   and at freinds  on and off ,   all of our  problems could of been avoided if only i/we attended the hearing  ,  so what ever  you do or anyone says dont take there word for it  still attend any hearings so you will know first hand whats going on ,    good luck to you from my family to urs  next time after ur move  i hope to see you posting in here  and grabbing those pogo badges 
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Title: Re: Stressed, worried, scared, need friends
Post by: missminimouse on April 14, 2006, 07:18:36 AM
Just want to let everyone know,  I learned a new bit of news today.   Still no exact closing date on the new house,  but everything is going smoothly,  shouldn't be too much longer before we're able to move in there.   Also,   our court date has been changed.   It's no longer the 20th.   It's been moved to the 27th,   and we'll have 72 hours after that to move out,   wich gives us an extra week.  So that's really great news.   Thank you all for your prayers and support.   Will give you more news as I get it.  Have a great Easter!!!!
Title: Re: Stressed, worried, scared, need friends
Post by: ClingFree on April 14, 2006, 07:19:53 AM
Quote from: missminimouse on April 14, 2006, 07:18:36 AM
Just want to let everyone know,  I learned a new bit of news today.   Still no exact closing date on the new house,  but everything is going smoothly,  shouldn't be too much longer before we're able to move in there.   Also,   our court date has been changed.   It's no longer the 20th.   It's been moved to the 27th,   and we'll have 72 hours after that to move out,   wich gives us an extra week.  So that's really great news.   Thank you all for your prayers and support.   Will give you more news as I get it.  Have a great Easter!!!!

Very glad to hear that some of the weight has been lifted from your shoulders!
Title: Re: Stressed, worried, scared, need friends
Post by: Gecko on April 14, 2006, 07:24:50 AM
great news to hear  Happy easter to you and your family   e5.gif> ee2.1.gif ee2.1.gif r2.gif r1.gif e5.gif> e5.gif>
Title: Re: Stressed, worried, scared, need friends
Post by: Helen on April 14, 2006, 07:29:40 AM
Quote from: missminimouse on April 14, 2006, 07:18:36 AM
Just want to let everyone know,  I learned a new bit of news today.   Still no exact closing date on the new house,  but everything is going smoothly,  shouldn't be too much longer before we're able to move in there.   Also,   our court date has been changed.   It's no longer the 20th.   It's been moved to the 27th,   and we'll have 72 hours after that to move out,   wich gives us an extra week.  So that's really great news.   Thank you all for your prayers and support.   Will give you more news as I get it.  Have a great Easter!!!!

So glad for that bit of news. Must be a relief to you that the date was pushed back.

You have a very Happy Easter.

Keep us up to date on what is happening.   e5.gif>
Title: Re: Stressed, worried, scared, need friends
Post by: crankycook on April 14, 2006, 07:36:52 AM
That is good news. And at least takes some of the worry off your shoulders. My prayers are still with you. Happy Easter
Title: Re: Stressed, worried, scared, need friends
Post by: missminimouse on April 27, 2006, 06:10:38 AM
Well,  I'm getting everything packed up,   we're moving out this weekend.   We're just waiting on the final paper work on the new house,  and my in-laws have a meeting with the lawyer today,   so if we haven't closed on the new house by tomorrow,  then definitly Monday or Tuesday next week.   Our power is being turned on over there on Monday and cable will be on Thursday.  I've got so much to do in the meantime,   soooooo much packing.   Anyone want to come over and help?  LOL
Title: Re: Stressed, worried, scared, need friends
Post by: Helen on April 27, 2006, 06:14:19 AM
Quote from: missminimouse on April 27, 2006, 06:10:38 AM
Well,  I'm getting everything packed up,   we're moving out this weekend.   We're just waiting on the final paper work on the new house,  and my in-laws have a meeting with the lawyer today,   so if we haven't closed on the new house by tomorrow,  then definitly Monday or Tuesday next week.   Our power is being turned on over there on Monday and cable will be on Thursday.  I've got so much to do in the meantime,   soooooo much packing.   Anyone want to come over and help?  LOL

Min, that's good news!! I'm so happy that things worked out for you.  :D
How about I watch the kids for you while you do the packing!!!  :))
Title: Re: Stressed, worried, scared, need friends
Post by: Jonathan on April 27, 2006, 08:45:00 AM
thats such good news im glad everything turned out ok...good luck with the new house ;::
Title: Re: Stressed, worried, scared, need friends
Post by: Jackpotloser on April 27, 2006, 08:56:31 AM
Love to here about a happy ending and a New beginning :) missminimouse
Title: Re: Stressed, worried, scared, need friends
Post by: missminimouse on April 27, 2006, 01:18:49 PM
Quote from: Helen on April 27, 2006, 06:14:19 AM
Quote from: missminimouse on April 27, 2006, 06:10:38 AM
Well,  I'm getting everything packed up,   we're moving out this weekend.   We're just waiting on the final paper work on the new house,  and my in-laws have a meeting with the lawyer today,   so if we haven't closed on the new house by tomorrow,  then definitly Monday or Tuesday next week.   Our power is being turned on over there on Monday and cable will be on Thursday.  I've got so much to do in the meantime,   soooooo much packing.   Anyone want to come over and help?  LOL

Min, that's good news!! I'm so happy that things worked out for you.  :D
How about I watch the kids for you while you do the packing!!!  :))


That woulda helped so much,  OMG!!   I've had such a day with these kids.  Next door neighbor came over with some boxes,  she's older and lives alone,   so she got to yappin,  and ya know it's hard to get rid of people like that,  so while I'm outside talking to her my 3 yo twins got into the cupboards and got crackers all over their bedroom.   Then they got into my wrapping paper and destroyed all of it.  Then they destroyed the box that I'd packed their toys in.   Basically I've spent all day undoing all the damaged they did,  and repacking everything they unpacked.   I know they're just bored cuz usually I'd be taking them outside for a few hours,  but I know I got a lot to do,  so we were stuck indoors today.  We're not gonna be home much tomorrow or Saturday,   so at least all my stuff will be safe,   then we're moving into the new place Sunday.   We'll have no power Sunday night,  but hey,  no power better than no place to live.   ;::
Title: Re: Stressed, worried, scared, need friends
Post by: Helen on April 27, 2006, 01:57:06 PM
Quote from: missminimouse on April 27, 2006, 01:18:49 PM
Quote from: Helen on April 27, 2006, 06:14:19 AM
Quote from: missminimouse on April 27, 2006, 06:10:38 AM
Well,  I'm getting everything packed up,   we're moving out this weekend.   We're just waiting on the final paper work on the new house,  and my in-laws have a meeting with the lawyer today,   so if we haven't closed on the new house by tomorrow,  then definitly Monday or Tuesday next week.   Our power is being turned on over there on Monday and cable will be on Thursday.  I've got so much to do in the meantime,   soooooo much packing.   Anyone want to come over and help?  LOL

Min, that's good news!! I'm so happy that things worked out for you.  :D
How about I watch the kids for you while you do the packing!!!  :))


That woulda helped so much,  OMG!!   I've had such a day with these kids.  Next door neighbor came over with some boxes,  she's older and lives alone,   so she got to yappin,  and ya know it's hard to get rid of people like that,  so while I'm outside talking to her my 3 yo twins got into the cupboards and got crackers all over their bedroom.   Then they got into my wrapping paper and destroyed all of it.  Then they destroyed the box that I'd packed their toys in.   Basically I've spent all day undoing all the damaged they did,  and repacking everything they unpacked.   I know they're just bored cuz usually I'd be taking them outside for a few hours,  but I know I got a lot to do,  so we were stuck indoors today.  We're not gonna be home much tomorrow or Saturday,   so at least all my stuff will be safe,   then we're moving into the new place Sunday.   We'll have no power Sunday night,  but hey,  no power better than no place to live.   ;::

Wow Min, been a busy day for you. If I could have, I'd have watched them for you. I have twins also and I remember those days!!! It seems rough now but after you're in the new house it will be ok!! Hang in there.  ;)
Title: Re: Stressed, worried, scared, need friends
Post by: harley89 on April 27, 2006, 02:05:36 PM
Glad to know everything is working out.  When one doors closes another one opens. Good luck
Title: Re: Stressed, worried, scared, need friends
Post by: tigereyes on April 27, 2006, 05:28:06 PM
I'm glad to hear that everything worked out for you Missminimouse.
Title: Re: Stressed, worried, scared, need friends
Post by: krispy on April 28, 2006, 07:40:04 AM
i have twins also. now i know why animals eat their young.
Title: Re: Stressed, worried, scared, need friends
Post by: Helen on April 28, 2006, 07:42:06 AM
Quote from: krispy on April 28, 2006, 07:40:04 AM
i have twins also. now i know why animals eat their young.

:o   :))  Were the twins your first born?
Title: Re: Stressed, worried, scared, need friends
Post by: krispy on April 28, 2006, 07:43:40 AM
yessssssss and 14 months later i had ANOTHER GIRL :o :o :o
Title: Re: Stressed, worried, scared, need friends
Post by: Helen on April 28, 2006, 07:46:34 AM
Quote from: krispy on April 28, 2006, 07:43:40 AM
yessssssss and 14 months later i had ANOTHER GIRL :o :o :o

Then you had "baptism by fire".  :))  I had my daughter first and the twins 20 months later.  :o
Title: Re: Stressed, worried, scared, need friends
Post by: krispy on April 28, 2006, 12:20:04 PM
i can honestly say when they told me the pregnancy test was positive, i didnt have a clue what they meant. lol.
Title: Re: Stressed, worried, scared, need friends
Post by: missminimouse on May 05, 2006, 07:30:00 AM
I had a 5 yr old when my twins were born.   Twins are 3 and 1/2 now and another due in a month. 
Anyways,  just to let ya'll know,  we're moved in,  got power,  cable got turned on yesterday.   Everything going OK so far,   except we got no water.   :x
Something wrong with the plumbing,   we gotta get that fixed,  for now we working with a small drip and warm it on the stove for dishes and sponge baths.   Ah well,  at least we got a roof.
Title: Re: Stressed, worried, scared, need friends
Post by: harley89 on May 05, 2006, 08:13:26 AM
So glad to hear things are on the way to working out.  :D
Title: Re: Stressed, worried, scared, need friends
Post by: Lynne on May 05, 2006, 10:21:36 AM
glad to hear everything turned out ok. love happy endings
Title: Re: Stressed, worried, scared, need friends
Post by: tigereyes on May 05, 2006, 12:31:26 PM
Quote from: missminimouse on May 05, 2006, 07:30:00 AM
I had a 5 yr old when my twins were born.   Twins are 3 and 1/2 now and another due in a month. 
Anyways,  just to let ya'll know,  we're moved in,  got power,  cable got turned on yesterday.   Everything going OK so far,   except we got no water.   :x
Something wrong with the plumbing,   we gotta get that fixed,  for now we working with a small drip and warm it on the stove for dishes and sponge baths.   Ah well,  at least we got a roof.

I'm glad to hear everything worked out well for you and your family. Hope you get the water fixed soon.
Title: Re: Stressed, worried, scared, need friends
Post by: Helen on May 07, 2006, 12:49:00 PM
Quote from: missminimouse on May 05, 2006, 07:30:00 AM
I had a 5 yr old when my twins were born.   Twins are 3 and 1/2 now and another due in a month. 
Anyways,  just to let ya'll know,  we're moved in,  got power,  cable got turned on yesterday.   Everything going OK so far,   except we got no water.   :x
Something wrong with the plumbing,   we gotta get that fixed,  for now we working with a small drip and warm it on the stove for dishes and sponge baths.   Ah well,  at least we got a roof.

Min, I'm so glad to hear you're almost all settled in. Good luck with everything!!  (especially the new baby on the way)  :)